By Kirby & Lynsey on Tuesday, 24 March 2020
Category: Character Training

How to Stretch Your Child Out of Their Activity Comfort-Zone

People are born with certain temperaments. These temperaments do not necessarily define the person. And we can all be helped in stretching ourselves beyond our own boundaries. Not to be as rigid as we might like.

Some are introverts. Some are extroverts. And everything in between. One definition of an introvert is a person who uses or loses energy around a group of people. And one definition of an extrovert is a person who gets energy out of groups of people.

Every human being can function well within a variety of situations. Most people fall somewhere in the middle of this introversion-extroversion spectrum. Preferred activity types can be indicators of a child's temperament. Very introverted children who have not practiced social skills can be quiet and withdrawn. These children need to be encouraged to learn to enjoy social movement and to be healthy in that way. Very extroverted children need to learn that there are times when being alone is necessary and good. Socially active children need to learn quieter activities such as reading and drawing. Socially withdrawn children need to learn more social activities such as conversation and play.

(Disclaimer: You can be on opposite ends of the spectrum: an active introverted child or a sedentary extroverted child. It is important to notice/observe each child to focus on what each child is like. Then you will be able to help the weaknesses and celebrate and build up their strengths.)

Quieter children will often enjoy doing the following with their parents:

* These activities that quieter children usually thrive on are great for the more active child to be stretched so they can learn to enjoy them. Skills in stillness and the joys of quieter activities are to be sought. The secret is to get them to stretch a bit beyond their normal tendencies.

Active children enjoy:

We all can change to a degree. Enjoy your child. Get to know them. Work with them where they are. And then gently stretch them. (For example, a parent can help calm an active child by whispering to them.)

We tend to understand quickly the children similar to themselves. Be careful with the ones who are different than you. Be careful to protect their personality. Don't put yourself -- yourself or your fears -- onto them. It helps to be aware of your own desires, fears, and temperament. Allow them to be who they are. This is how we can best help them to grow and be all that God has designed them to be. 

To understand both perspectives better, see further reading: Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can't Stop Talking, by Susan Cain. Please also refer to the notes in our next blog article on The Developing Person Through the Lifespan, by Kathleen Berger.

 

Photo Credit: Donnie Ray Jones cc

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